This interview with Carmelyn P. Malalis, chairwoman and commissioner of the New York City Commission on Human Rights, was conducted and condensed by Adam Bryant.
Q. Were you in leadership positions when you were younger?
A. From a very early age, I was in leadership roles, whether it was choir president in grade school or student council president in high school. My parents are immigrants from the Philippines, and even though they were proud of me, I think they were wary of the independence that was awakening in me. Having their daughter expressing her opinions so publicly and openly was just not something that culturally they were accustomed to.
A few years ago, I received an award, and my parents joined me at the luncheon. My parents and I have the type of relationship and experience that I know a lot of my friends who are also second-generation have with their parents. We’re out in the world doing things that are very different from their lives. Often the result is that our parents know very little about what we feel very strongly about.
Then there are these moments when it becomes very real for your parents. I vividly remember after the event, we went to get our coats, and my dad said to me: “You know, Carm, when you were young, you were very opinionated, and it was really tough on me and Mom. But I can see it’s done well for you.” I think about that all the time.
Do you see strands of your parents in your leadership style today?
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